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Again, laughing and smiling are great. Do this. Sometimes, yes, even laugh at his corny jokes when you don’t actually think they’re funny. It’s a good thing.

 

6. Being too much of a “party girl.”

 

Getting a little wild sometimes can be okay, but too much partying makes you seem like you’re never able to be serious.

 

7. Lack of style.

 

Some women naturally have a great style, but if you’re struggling in that area, don’t just resign yourself to a style-less life. Get help!

 

8. Lack of organization in your life.

 

We all get messy, but if you have to poor your huge purse out on the table (old napkins, pieces of food, tampons and all), that’s just gross. Stay organized as much as possible.

 

9. Bad posture.

 

Bad posture is surprisingly important to almost all of us because it tells us how you feel about yourself.

 

10. Not “taking care” of yourself.

 

Not being clean is one thing. But as women, there are a number of other things that we often need to do as well. Now, remember, this is not true for everyone, and every woman deserves to make her own decisions about her appearance. But for many women, just a few “tidying up” routines can make all the difference. For example: Regular shaving/waxing/plucking/trimming Nail care, Foot care (You don’t need a professional pedicure!)Haircuts and/or color

 

11. Being unkind.

 

Be kind. Be honest. Do good. Be forgiving. Be generous.

 

Because these are the things that are truly beautiful to a man, most of all … if you’re looking for a great guy to attract, great guys love great gals. So be that … do good. And you’ll be golden.

 

“They are safe and sound,” he said, noting that a doctor had made medical checks and pronounced them “fit and sound”.

 

Kidnappings of foreigners are common in the region, which holds most of the OPEC member’s crude oil and contributes about 70 per cent of national income.

 

Nigeria has remained Africa’s top oil producer until a recent spate of attacks on oil facilities.

 

 

Yours is a long-distance marriage. How do you both manage to get by?

 

Tammy: Sometimes, it gets hard but whenever we are together, we are inseparable. We talk everyday, then we video call each other at least four times a week. We both lead busy lives because of our careers, so it makes things a lot safer. The manner we talk and send messages to each other makes it seem as though we are right next to each other.

 

Did you deliberately set out to marry a foreigner?

 

Patrick: I belong to the new generation of Igbo men who aren’t too keen on the tribe or race of a woman.Ours is a classic case of destiny because neither of us made a deliberate effort to get married to each other. I guess time and chance happened to us.

 

 

How did you react to the snide remarks that trailed your marriage to an American?

 

Patrick: People complained, but we have overcome all of that.

 

Tammy: I was nervous when I arrived Nigeria for the first time because I had been told all sorts of horror stories. When I stepped out of the plane and eventually out of the airport, my life felt at peace for the first time. I had never felt a sense of peace before that time.

 

Did you have the blessings of your parents from the outset?

 

Tammy: His family is wonderful; his mother took an instant liking to me and we prayed together when we met for the first time. His folks took me around their home, church, and showed me around. They welcomed me with open arms. My mum is very happy for me because she sees how happy I am and how genuine Patrick is. My husband is wonderful man.

 

Patrick: Our families are very cordial and my wife is adapting quite fast to the Nigerian culture. She is learning to cook our traditional delicacies, whilst also learning my language. I am also learning the American culture even though they are not as culturally oriented as we are in Nigeria.

 

In what ways do you contribute to the advancement of each other’s career?

 

Patrick: I introduced her to some banking professionals here in Nigeria and they have done some business together and this has earned her more clients.

 

Tammy: My husband doesn’t ask for money; he is not that type of guy. Even if he needs something, he wouldn’t ask. He does quite well in that aspect. I am preparing for when he will visit me in the USA, so that we will have a home over here and in Nigeria. With my contacts, I will introduce him to established comedians here in America and have shows fully booked down for him. Everyday, I send him prayers to encourage him because as his wife, I am expected to be his backbone. He appreciates that because it keeps him going.

 

Who apologises first after a disagreement?

 

Tammy: We haven’t really gotten into any arguments but if we get into one, I would probably be the first to apologise. I don’t ever want to see him angry and that is also not my wish for this union.

 

How do you keep admirers at bay?

 

Patrick: Marriage is still a learning curve for us. I have also made her understand that fake scandals might always arise because I am a celebrity. I have made her understand the dictates of my job, so she can understand my status better.

 

Is trust ever an issue?

 

Patrick: She tells me when men make passes at her. We are able to manage such scenarios because we understand that our careers involve us interacting with other people.

 

Did you have any fear at any point in your relationship?

 

Tammy: I never did. I told my mum that if it came down to it I would actually live in Nigeria full-time. I love my career but I would be open to being a housewife.

 

Some celebrities are of the opinion that marriage stalls their career…

 

Patrick: The Bible said he that finds a wife has found a good thing. There are a lot of blessings attached to marriage. You may not know it but it’s a phase in life you can’t run away from.

 

What is the secret behind the success of your marriage?

 

Patrick: We keep our marriage off social media so we don’t attract undue attention. Some people think I married her because of the American Green Card and they have been telling her so. I told her that she met me in this business as a star and not as a hungry man. I have travelled to different parts of the world but Nigeria is still a better place to live in.

 

Do you both have access to each other’s social media accounts?

 

Patrick: We follow each other on social media but we don’t have access each other’s accounts because that is private.

 

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Below is what he posted on Instagram;

 

 

Lawal was about rounding off his prayers when ministers reminded him of Jibril, and he said: “Yes let’s pray for him too.”

 

A justice of the federal high court in Abuja, has rejected an application for leave to travel abroad for medical treatment filed by Olisa Metuh.

"This is not a case of sympathy, but a case of law.‎ This court has no jurisdiction to entertain this application. The court is not Father Christmas to give to the defendant what it did not ask for. The application lacks merit. It is accordingly dismissed. The court cannot set aside its decision," he ruled.

 

A policeman who is being hailed as a hero all around the world for risking his won life to save an endangered girl has had a special treat as he watches her celebrate her big day.

 

'There are only a few moments that are so important in life,' Aponte said. 'I wanted to share my graduation with everyone who's important to me, who have been there for me, and who helped me through tough times.'

 

This is the moment Getz saved 5-year-old Aponte's life in 1998

 

On that fateful day on June 25, 1998, Getz said he had called out to a fire in the Aponte's apartment on Washington Street.

 

He arrived at the scene just in time to see a firefighter carrying a young girl out of the burning building. Before he could react, the youngster was thrust into his arms as the fire crews ran back into the building to fight the flames. 

 

Acutely aware that Aponte was not breathing and did not have a pulse, Getz said he fled back to the patrol car where he immediately began to perform CPR.

 

The cop continued CPR in the back of the car throughout the journey to the hospital, and by the time they pulled up, his young patient was breathing normally again.

 

Sadly, Aponte's uncle Jofrey was not so lucky and later passed away from his injuries. Her mother was at work at the time.

 

The burnt house in which Aponte nearly died 18 years ago

 

For Aponte, she remembers little of the ordeal past the thick heavy smoke and trying unsuccessfully to wake Jofrey.

 

But for Getz, it was an experience that always stayed with him.

 

'It's one of those things that touches your heart and stays with you,' he said. 'It's a situation that we could control, that we could foresee the outcome of. The firemen did their job, I did my job, the hospital staff did their job. As a result, we still have a beautiful young woman still on the face of the Earth.' 

 

Now an investigator with Aetna, Getz kept the iconic photo of the rescue on his desk, and would keep tabs on Aponte and her family and after they moved to Vernon.

 

Aponte and Getz hang out together often these days

 

But he said he was not sure whether he should reach out to her.

 

Two years ago, Aponte made the decision for him after she was able to track down the former detective on Facebook.

 

Now 23, she said she had wanted to meet the man who saved her life.

 

'Not many people can or are willing to put themselves in danger to save others,' she said. 'It's because of people like Peter and all of our police officers and firefighters that I'm alive.'  

 

Since making contact, the pair often get together to discuss their lives and the night that first brought them together.

 

And when it came time for Aponte to graduate from Eastern Connecticut State University. on Tuesday, she said she couldn't have imagined not having Getz at her side.